The problem with gun safeties is: the manufacturers of the guns. There is nothing inherently wrong with a gun safety. The idea behind safeties has been around for years and year and years. The 1911 is a 100 year old design and has three safeties in it's modern form: grip safety, a firing pin disconnect and a manual flip safety. It also has a sear disconnect and a half-cock. The grip safety, the Springfield XD people will hate me for this, is an outdated concept. The idea behind multiple safeties is a good thing, but I cannot understand why a grip safety would be used in a modernly designed weapon. I suppose it's an additional feature to keep children, with their small hands from being able to being able to cover the grip safety and still reach the trigger.
The other safety I hate is the trigger safety. This has become ubiquitous on modern polymer pistols. Glock even calls theirs "Safe Action." What a load of crap. Any safety that is automatically disconnected by depressing the trigger is not a safety. There are a dozen modern techniques fro keeping the trigger from moving, the sear and firing pin locked, but a trigger safety should never have been one of them.
As for other safeties, I whole-heartedly state that any weapon not directly to be used for self-defense be properly stored in a safe, locked box, and use an internal lock (if built in), a trigger block, or a cable lock. Any and all of these should be used to prevent those who should not have access tot he weapon from being able to get to and use that weapon. I would never use an internal lock or cable lock on a self defense weapon, such as one specifically placed in my night table, as the small keys are just too hard to use under stressful situations.